God Never Wastes Our Hurts

I just stared at her picture.

Her beautiful profile in the sonogram photo matched her big brother’s ultrasound picture.  Seeing the family resemblance, I just could not take my eyes off her precious face.

Sadly, I never got to see her sweet face in person or hold her in my arms here on Earth.  She passed away before I ever got to meet her.

To parents who have lost a baby, I see you.  I am one of you.

Feeling devastated when the doctor could not find my baby’s heartbeat at 16 weeks pregnant, all my hope and dreams for my baby were gone in an instant. Can you relate?

I cried most of that summer as I found it hard to say goodbye before I even got to say hello.   Grieving the loss of our sweet Baby Grace was challenging and at time, even felt hopeless.

All that changed one year later when I received a phone call from a college friend.  She shared about a church friend that just walked through the heartbreaking loss I had the previous summer.  She wanted to know if I would talk to her and help her.

I said yes, not fully understanding how much healing would come from helping another hurting heart.

As I shared my story of Baby Grace, I offered this grieving mom comfort and hope. I reminded her that she was not alone.  I realized now that I would not have been able to help her in her grief without having walked those same painful steps one year before.  

That summer, God clearly showed me that He never wastes our hurts.

Friends, I still don’t fully understand the why behind our grief.  But what I do know is that my story of miscarriage helped another mom walking through her story of miscarriage.  My tears became my testimony.  He wants to do the same for you.

When you place your tears in God’s hands, He can use your heartbreak to bring hope to another hurting heart.

Hope!  It is such a powerful word. 

Tomorrow Oct. 15^th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.  In honor of this special day, the Depth Podcast is sharing stories of loss and hope this month on the podcast.  I encourage you to listen. Also, we are giving away a copy of Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg.

Join me in remembering all those who have walked through a pregnancy loss.  

Love, Jodi